And this is way I'm leaving...I ended up spending the day in the hospital yesterday thanks to my stupid ass husband. I'm at work and the kids are with him (since it's his weekend). I get a call around 11:10am from my mother-in-law. There at the hospital because my 2 1/2yr old daugther drank a bottle of Benadryl. Talk about freaking out. I left work right away and headed over to the hospital to find out what the hell was going on. I get there and find out she ate a tube of Benadryl anit-itch cream (used for misquito bites and what not). Their trying to get her to drink charcoal. Talk about gross. That was a huge fight in itself. Obviously you're not going to get a kid to drink that crap. It got to the point that I had to hold her head while dad forced it in her mouth. That was a huge mess. We finally got it all in around 1pm. The doc then came in and said that now it was a waiting game. Since she took the stuff around 10:30am, we had to wait until 4:30pm to make sure there were no new side affects and that her body would dispose of the charcoal. I asked him who was watching her when this happend. His mother was outside and he went to go let the dogs out and when he turned around she had crawled onto the kitchen table and got ahold of it. Man was I pissed. By 1:30pm I left because I couldn't stand the sight of him. I was fuming!! My mom sent my stepdad out to be by me since I couldn't have my friend come. That was nice to have someone there to make sure I was ok. I called them around 4pm to find out what was going on and then said she was passing it fine and that she could go home once she ate something. All I can really say is we were lucky. What if she would've gotten into something more serious!! I called around bedtime to make sure she was doing ok. I could hear her in the background having a blast, so I knew my baby was ok. I made sure I called the lawyer though. That should be interesting to see what happens when the three of us met again. And yet, so people wonder why I'm leaving him. After 5yrs into it, you think everything would be ok, but it just continued to get worse and my best friend can atest to that. She's seen everything first hand. She's even had to stand between us just so she would take the hit instead of me. I don't know what I'd do without her!
Lawyers.....It's pretty bad when your soon to be exhusband gets a lawyer to help him in court for a divorce and the lawyer sides with you most of the way. I went to a meeting with them on Tuesday and it was rather interesting. The lawyer sat there and told my soon to be ex that he needed to get a better job, move out of his mom's house, grow up and start making some of his own decisions instead of letting his mom tell him what to do. He currently has a job where he doesn't know if he's working from one day to the next. He's living with his mom (which was expected since he's a huge mommy's boy). Plus he lets his mother influence anything he does. It was actually pretty sad and getting out of hand. The lawyer also told him what would be best for the kids in this divorce (which was the exact same things I have been telling him since I filed in March). Joint custody with shared placement. But he didn't listen to me (more than likely thanks to his mother). He kept insisting that he wanted Joint custody with primary placement with him. I continued to tell him absolutely not, but he insisted on paying big bucks for a lawyer to turn around and tell him the exact same thing. It was actually kind of funny. Plus the lawyer is working for both of us. He told me that if my ex fucks up, I can call him and he'll straighten him out. So even though my ex is paying for him and the lawyer is representing him, I get help too. Plus he said that we can get this divorced finalized by the end of July. Way cool!!
The kids seem to be handling it pretty well though. I got my 4yr old in counseling last week. I'm hoping it will help him out. He's got grandma (ex's mom) telling him how to be naughty and do things he's not supposed to so that I'll say I don't want them and then my ex can get custody/placement. That's the type of person she is. She was always a huge problem in our marriage. But if you ask him, it was anything like that. It was all my fault things were falling apart!! It was my fault that he developed a raging temper and started to become physical abusive let alone verbally. It was always my fault that the kids didn't listen to him and respect him even though he sat there and treated them like total shit. It was always my fault that I couldn't stand being around him since he gave me a headache from constantly yelling at the kids. I'd always spend my weekends in bed because I could stand the sight of him. He always knew how to take a perfectly good weekend and flush it down the drain in a matter of seconds.
It didn't help that I had a lot of "issues" that happend during our marriage. I was sexaully assulted about 1yr into it. Sure he was there physically to help me through it, but he wasn't there mentally. He'd do things that just made me feel like I caused what happen to happen. He'd treat me like crap and put me down and lower my self esteem just to make himself feel better. But you know what? I'm come to realize that I'm a lot better without him. My selfesteem has started to rise. I've become a much happier person and much easier to be around. I don't need him!! I can do things on my own just fine and if it wasn't for an extremely great friend, I probably never would've realized it until it was too late. Thanks (you know who you are)!!!
At least for the time being, things are finally starting to look up in my life. I hope it continues on the up swing!!
