Something to ponder....How could you be with someone (whether married or not) for an extended period of time, and never be "pleased"? Why would you always want to be the one doing the work or pleasing? Would you want it in return?
It just blows me away that this could happen. This is getting a little personal, but I feel it's something I need to blog about. The guy I'm seeing (no names will be mentioned) had this happen. He was married for about 5 yrs (if I remember correctly). We got a little "playful" last night and I went down. Afterwards he told me that he hadn't had that happen in a really long time. When I asked him why not (trying to play dumb of course) he said that his ex wasn't that way. She was all about recieving and never giving, let alone being the mood for it at all. He said he's always used to doing the "work" and not having it shared or being "pleased". What kind of sex life (let alone marriage) is that? Even though I couldn't stand having sex with my ex, I at least made sure I shared in the work and pleased in return.
That's the whole fun of sex too is to do the work, whether it's all of it or if it's shared equally. Plus it's fun to play and please the other whether you get something in return or not.
As I told my new guy, "Get used to it, because I enjoy helping and I love to please without expecting anything in return!"
Wonder how long it'll take him?
Training...What is the purpose of telling me to train someone if you're just going to go off and redo it yourself? Don't tell me to train the new girl because you don't want to and you don't want the other girl to do it and then turn around and retrain her anyways after 2 days. I can tell she can't quite grab the consept of what's going on here, so I'm taking my time and not trying to overwhelm her with too much. Don't come to me and say, teach her this, and show her that and go over this and that. The girl can't even get the basics down yet and that's what I've been going over of the last 2 days. Don't rush me (or her for that matter). If she's going to work out, it's going to take time and patience. If you think I'm not doing a good enough job, than do it yourself instead of pawning of your responsibilites to someone else.
Todays drama...I picked up my kids today from my ex since they spent the weekend with him. No biggie. The kicker was when we got home. My son went to my best friend (who lives downstairs from us) that he's supposed to tell his dad when the guy I'm seeing touches him. Now I don't mean inappropriately either. I mean anything. He was told that he can't give hugs or hand shakes or the special little "bump" that they have. He was also told that he can't like him or my best friend. Once I talked to my son and told him that it was ok to like my guy, he was glad and wanted to go back downstairs to give him a hug and do there special "bump". It also turns out that he was told he couldn't give hugs to my friend either. She came up to make sure everything was going ok since it was getting to be bedtime. She asked for a hug from him and he responded with a no. Once I told him it was ok the give hugs and to like her, he pretty much jumped into her arms to give her a really big hug. It was just strange the way things happened tonight. And it was all in a matter of about 1 hr. I don't know what my ex is telling him, but it's messing with his head and I don't like it. If the kid likes people, he should be allowed to like them. Not dislike them just because my ex does. I think it's mean what he's doing to him. You don't mess with a 4yr olds mind. Let them be!! Let them think what they want and like who they want. Don't force those type of decisions on them.
